The Boundary Cycle

    Well, This boundary was recommended by the Psychiatrist. This one carries LPC Branding. I like the Social Worker Brand. Soft on the eyes. Hmmmmm... this one is faded.... The lettering on this one is not clear... This one is too bright... red's not a good color for boundaries. This boundary doesn't have enough starch. Throw them all in the washer. Fabric softener makes these boundaries go over well. Hmm.. this boundary could use a little vinegar right here. Do I have enough boundaries? There's a store for that too, I'm sure. Found some boundaries over here. These boundaries aren't working anymore. I'll give them away. They work for somebody. I don't like the Busybody Brand. The MindYourOwnDamnBusiness Brand. That's one I can live with. Do they make t shirts? Maybe I'll put it on a tie. 

Changed my emergency contacts. Old ones not working for me anymore. What's this one's phone number? LPC-WOR-K4ME. Yes, that's the number. I can remember that. I can remember some things. Physical boundaries are relatively straight forward. Ask. If you don't need to touch it, leave it alone. If you don't need to ingest it, don't. If it doesn't belong to you, don't touch it. Emotional ones are more complicated. Some people like to think that giving advice is a right. Other, more emotionally intelligent people, realize that if it doesn't need to be said, you don't say it. You can always ask if someone wants advice. But generally, it's not a good idea to give it if it's... what's the fancy term... un... solicited. solicit is that big word for asking. But you generally shouldn't ask a lot of questions. I've been hearing that a lot. So I don't ask questions I don't need to ask. FORGIVE ME FOR NOT DOING SO. Thou shalt not ask. 

There's lots of big words. Harassment is a big word. When you have big words and/or nicknames or code words, or... in some people's cases, multiple languages... You can find many ways to word things. You can use your tones to emphasize certain words. You can insult, lie, talk behind people's backs, run around, you can communicate with your words... But sometimes there's only so much to say. Kids, under 18... they can only be held so responsible for words and actions... you go above that age? Then you get that fancy word. Responsibility. Accountability. So generally, anyone over the age of 18 should be very careful about what they say. Careful about what they do. Stay in their lane. 

And then some people should have the sense to avoid each other in certain situations. If someone's in a bad mood, don't approach them. If they have a history of manipulating you, avoid them. If you're susceptible to a certain kind of influence from certain people, avoid them. 

So let's review the center list. Gateway checked out. Got enough hospitals and doctors. Got enough busybodies. Phoenix isn't checking in. I'm not checking in either there. 

Habits. You know talking is addictive? They should make it schedule 1. Talking: Use only ask directed. Take as needed for asking for things you need. Avoid operating heavy machinery while using. Use caution when giving advice. 

Looking at people. Schedule 3. If you are looking at people and see things you don't want to see, close your eyes or look away. 

Touching. Schedule 2. Do not touch and fantasize. Do not touch without asking. If you notice franticness while touching, stop and consult a priest. 

Noise. Schedule 3. Avoid noising in public. Do not use noising if people are allergic to your noise. Use noise only as intended.